“How ridiculous and what a stranger he is who is surprised at anything which happens in life.” Marcus Aurelius Meditations Book 12
I think once you fully accept the concept of never being surprised by anything in life, the happier you’ll be. No matter how ridiculous or egregious, it’s probably happened before and it will happen again. This ranges from all kinds rudeness, violence, abuse, lying, etc. Also included are personal tragedies, loss, failures.
Chances are, she’ll lose the ring at some point. Hope she isn’t surprised.
Certainly there are things that could pleasantly surprise us as well, but again, these events are part of the rise and fall of life.
Eighth, consider how much more pain is brought on us by the anger and vexation caused by such acts than by the acts themselves, at which we are angry and vexed. Marcus Aurelius Meditations Chapter 11
Events happen. Our impressions determine how good or bad they are, right? If this be true, then certainly our reaction, or worse our over-reaction to something that disturbs us cannot possibly make it better. Continue reading →
“Seventh, that it is not men’s acts which disturb us, for those acts have their foundation in men’s ruling principles, but it is our own opinions which disturb us.” Marcus Aurelius Meditations Chapter 11
Well, this brings us full circle. As Marcus speaks to himself it is inevitable that he returns to a fundamental tenet of Stoicism: Continue reading →
“Be for the most part silent, or speak merely what is necessary, and in few words.” Epictetus Enchiridion
I want to help. I want to give advice. After all, I have a lot of knowledge if people would just listen to me. Also, I am full of helpful advice if people would just listen to me. The long and short of it all is I do a lot of talking. I have the gift of gab, and I have a lot of helpful things to say. Except when I don’t. Continue reading →