Rule Nine: A Kind Disposition

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The final rule from Meditations Chapter 11 is here!

“Ninth, consider that a good disposition is invincible, if it be genuine, and not an affected smile and acting a part.”

One of my all-time favorite books is “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie.  It’s title Continue reading

Consider Your Neighbor’s Character and Motives (Rule #2)

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“If any have offended thee…second, consider what kind of men they are at table, in bed, and so forth: and particularly, under what compulsions in respect of opinions they are; and as to their acts, consider with what pride they do what they do.”  Marcus Aurelius Book 11

Nobody’s perfect.  Some are less perfect than others.  Again, my goal as a Stoic is to be above the fray.  Continue reading

A Personal Creed: Do You Have One?

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I am a man of action, leading with passionate equanimity, rational self-interest, and never forgetting the power of individual liberty.  I will never forget that my wife is my queen, and I her king, and that my children are my gift to humanity.  I will respect the dignity of all, but measure the character of each.  I will honor my body and mind by taking care of them. I will light a candle in darkness.

The passage above is my creed.  This is not some fancy introduction to something I read, it really is mine.  I developed it over a period of years.  Continue reading

Challenging Myself: Sport, Living, Thinking, Loving

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Like today, my tendency as an eighth grader was towards timidity, peacefulness, and reflection.  I feared conflict, I was generally non-aggressive. When my friend, John, encouraged me to play high school football, at first I was confused.  I didn’t consider myself particularly burly, fast or mean…you know, the football type, but he persisted.  As a football coach’s son, he already had a knack of finding football talents in those who didn’t think they had it.  He would later become a high school football coach himself (he was born to do it).  Anyway, I wasn’t alone on his recruiting list.  Once he recruited me, I helped him make sure that the talented prospects in our town came out and played some football.  During the years I played, our high school had some of its most successful seasons, due at least in part, to his recruiting and mentoring efforts.

However, let me return to my individual situation.  Continue reading

Balancing The Present Moment with the Future

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I do a lot of talking about the present moment here on the site.  For good reason:  the present moment is where I will find true happiness.  It is the only thing that is real; the past is a memory and the future is never assured… Continue reading